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Twenty years ago, our understanding of love addiction was still emerging out of our understanding of codependency. Understanding the complex issues love addiction and the relationship to narcissism is an important part of breaking the cycle and finding healthy, positive relationships in the future. Pia mellodys model of love addiction illustrates two people. Understanding and loving a person with alcohol or drug addiction. In this expanded third edition, brenda schaeffer draws on years of feedback and new developments to foster an understanding of love addiction.
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